Unto women then. Or more specifically, the woman. I haven’t met the person with whom I will share this life with as yet (or have I?) but I have committed to becoming a better person for her. Lately I’ve been given to reading, watching and listening to all things concerning godly manhood and fatherhood. That’s right! Goodbye “Power Rangers,” hello “Focus on The Family.” There’s a lot to know and a lot to become. I’ve found the responsibility of being a husband and a father to be monumental; something I am aware I’ll never fully appreciate until I’m in the role.
I’ve heard it said that second to the Lord, who you marry is the most significant person in your life. To put it plainly, marriage is a big deal. More particularly, who you marry is a life altering decision. This is a lifetime we’re talking about here. It would serve me well to be very cautious in the matter. Sure, I’ve been called picky. My usual response is “you bedder be.”
My journey began with me fashioning the ideal companion in my mind, as I’m sure we all do. Then it hit me “now, would she marry a guy like me?” Probably not. I’ve got some work to do. I’m learning more and more that it isn’t about looking for Ms. Right, no, its about attracting her by becoming Mr. Right. Its about becoming the man worthy of the blessing of calling one of God’s finest my wife. Its about doing some introspection to make sure I likewise measure up to the expectations I have of her. So here are seven attributes and character strengths I believe I must cultivate for Little Miss:
- I must, first of all, love and be completely sold out for the Lord.
- I must, very importantly, be spiritually mature.
- I must be financially independent.
- I must be responsible.
- I must be selfless.
- I must be loyal.
And lastly but clearly, I must pray. You see, I’m not waiting for Ms. Right, I’m preparing for her.